I think I have a stalker, possibly sharing house with them
In November last year, I had to advertise the two rooms in the house I was currently renting in order to find two new housemates. I posted an ad on spareroom.co.uk, and I accepted two individuals that signed a year lease with me. James David Reynolds and Yaroslav Braumketner.
At first it all went down great. Last minute hiccups, adding a six month breaking clause, the usual.
One of the housemates James 23M appeared for the initial viewing with his girlfriend, Faye Rogers 20 something young woman.
We swapped numbers and I proceeded to find another tenant. Yaroslav replied to my spare room advert shortly after, 27M from Ukraine looking for a new double room to move to. He was quite keen on the place and we chatted very cordially.
We signed a contract and they moved around December 2024. The background checks included passport and previous addresses shared with the private landlord, but we didn’t engage further at the time also due to time constraints, as it was the end of the year.
I found it extremely weird the way James reacted to my messages with heart emojis unprovoked, being told that a lot of things I do are cute (after me being an openly gay man, single), compared me to women or spoke pejoratively about them. But I put it down to age, and I continued being extremely helpful and polite with both of them.
It was only about a couple months later that I started to notice I was being called downstairs more and more and saw a pattern of teasing and constantly questioning what I wear or what I do. Other times provoking me with conversations such as if they can use the n* word and saying it multiple times, or get me to give them information about me and what I do.
The first instance of them grabbing my attention was the moment I realised Yaroslav asked about and had bought in a very short time, the same guitar model I had and the same console I had. He kept engaging with me talking about video games, which I took at the time as just a new hobby and sharing it.
But I also noticed he never used or mentioned the guitar ever again, even though I saw it in his room and it was the exact same model I sent him for reference on WhatsApp. An exact copy. I just found it odd that he would get a similar one and never mention to play or interest in my music. .
At one point during April, I was invited for dinner downstairs, which was a rare evening as Fay was visiting us at the time. After midnight, when everybody was asleep, she knocked on the door to my private room and asked if she could have another drink with me. During dinner she had spoken about quite a few heavy topics, and she had asked me if I could be her friend multiple times, so I let her in even though I had to work the next day.
She proceeded to get quite personal, asking a lot of private questions and ultimately had a panic attack on my kitchen while telling me about her own house situation and that she had suicidal thoughts.
After I managed to talk to her and keep her relaxed until the point of sleepyness, for 2 hours, she finally was tired and went downstairs and I went to sleep.
For the next few days, all the house guests at that dinner proceeded to ignore me without any reason, which at first made me quite confused.
I put it down to immaturity and I continue with my routine, and issues with work.
I also have to mention that in this house, we don’t have locks on the rooms so there is unlimited access to my room when I’m not present, and that the router of the house is in James’ room.
Yaroslav brought guests that were left in their underwear around the house without warning, and send unsolicited pictures of women’s bras in the kitchen chair for no reason.
It ultimately felt like I was being constantly provoked, with a list of chats and interactions that has become too big to share at once and needs proper investigation.
The situation suddenly escalated when James became hostile during a conversation, which made me leave the room without saying goodbye and call it for the night.
From then on, communication broke down and they both initiated a pattern of isolating me, confusing me and provoking me (slamming doors, inviting me to discuss the situation and then doing Nazi salutes and saying being gay is a choice unprompted). They even made personal enquiries about my finances, and the clients I work with, to a degree that I know find quite intrusive.
This year I started receiving exceedly more personal phishing attempts, or attempts to engage with online accounts that get deleted after. My housemates have my phone number and email addresses and they can see who I start following on any of these platforms as there is no way to hide it.
I started noticing this same accounts following people I started working with, and some of those projects fell silence or end up costing me money.
I have plenty of screenshots and messages in which they engage in toxic behaviour, owning me or making me wasting time or money, delaying replying to issues for days and lying about moving out. Emailing the landlord without my knowledge just as we agreed to discuss their hostility.
A baluster or spindle from our common staircase being broken as retaliation for asking to not slam the doors. They lied and ignored the issue when it was obvious it was a targeted attack, which I know want to report as a hate crime. I have reason to believe there is a level of obsession that I can now proof with messages.
I would desperately ask that you take this information extremely seriously, and that at least you should be able to ask enough questions to find out the truth.
- I need you to ask them the question if there was money exchanged between them, or if the profit somehow for engaging in specific activities or goals towards me as to what it could be considered betting or gambling.
- I need you to ask if they have misrepresented themselves or their guests in any capacity, that being names, relationships amongst each other, their religious views or intentions towards me.
- I need you to ask them if any of my living space or equipment was accessed, stolen or tempered with.
- If any audio or video recording took place in any of the living spaces, shared or private.
- If they have spread any misinformation about me that might have caused further hostility, retaliation or abuse aimed towards me.
- If they knew about me, anyone related to me or they knew each other before contacting me on spareroom.co.uk for the tenancy.
I need help
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